A Menopause Ceremony

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For a girl, Menarche is her entrance to the world of Womanhood. For a woman, Menopause is her stepping into her Wisdom Years. None of these monumental Gateways are typically celebrated in current cultures.

While most of us have not been celebrated, nor been given a choice, when we came of age, many of us can take the ceremonial reigns in our hands when our menstrual blood pauses. Consciously planning a Menopause ceremony, and going through this spiritual Gateway intentionally, go beyond the honoring of our current stage in life. It ripples back to fill the void left in us at Puberty.

In cultures that value the spiritual stages of a woman’s life (as well as a Human life) Rite of Passage ceremonies were Initiations into new phases on the journey. Each new phase – Birth, Puberty, Marriage, Grieving a loss, entering Elderhood, and finally Death – were prepared for, assisted by mentors and guides. Each ceremonial Rite of Passage was held as the Gate Way that helps prepare, forge, and mold the spiritual strength needed for the next stage.

A ceremony is an appointment with the universe.

The word Ceremony in Hebrew comes from the same root as the verb to Consult. In a way, ceremonies are consultations with the Divine… They are accompanied by others, yet the transformation that takes place is internal, individual, and solely yours.

You clear your calendar, your mind, and your heart of anything superfluous to your intention. You create a sacred space. Witnessed by close, beloved people — you give Form to your Intentions. You focus on that which you wish to release or affirm, let go of or proclaim. You pray for transformation.

My own Menopause Ceremony was a turning point:

I began preparing for it when my body first signaled to me of the coming change. I was 49 at the time, and my menstruation didn’t fully cease for another six years, but I knew I had to prepare. As the years unfolded, I realized that my body is preparing me to let go of habits that no longer serve me. It helped me burn away stagnant energy. It reminded me that change is a constant in a life that was used to relay on cycling regularly.

Lucy Newman’s poem ‘Transformation’ acutely describes the process:

Transformation

Do not think for one moment
that this Crone magically appears.

She comes from the digging in the soil,
the eating of the seed,
the intense and enormous learning
gleaned here in the pain of darkness,
which is not darkness,
but another plane, another way of seeing,
where we eat up our suffering intentionally,
in love and learning.

And each learning is an opening
to Power,
each page turned – a step to wisdom.

The Crone who comes
has had to be developed with difficulty,
to be nurtured with pain,
to be sought out and prompted.

Do not think for one moment that
she is a gift.

She is hard earned
and she is worthy,
because I have taken this day
and formed her.

~ Lucy Newman

Whispers…

{Heard in video’s sound track. Translated, arranged, and spoken by DeAnna}

Wise Woman
ידעונית
Femeie profundă
ساحرة
Saggia donna
Une femme avisee
Мудрая женщина
Mujer sabia
Weise Frau
σοφή γυναίκα
אשה חכמה. עומקה כים
יודעת סודות הנשמה
Transforming
מתמירה
בעירה

הידעונית הזו עלתה מן הקסם
Ea vine de la săpat în pământ
where we eat up our suffering intentionally
Ea a fost câștigată cu dragoste

Wise Woman
ידעונית
Femeie profundă

Wise woman
That we all are…

~ DeAnna L’am

It is indeed my experience that the Wise Woman, the Crone, is hard earned. She encompasses years of life lived, waves of experiences surfed, depth of despair and heights of hope. She is not the new bud unfurling at Menarche. She is the seed that comes from ‘eating our suffering, intentionally…’

For me, speaking in the three tongues of my being: Hebrew, Romanian, and English…  calling the Wise Woman in different languages of the world — are part of expressing my essence, giving voice to my soul…

What would you want to voice at your Menopause ceremony? What would you let go of? What kernels of knowing are you collecting along the way, which you would want to grind into flour, to bake into your Wisdom Bread?

Please share below your intentions, plans,or the ceremony you had!

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8 Responses

  1. I am 51, still cycling,but feel the changes happening. My plan is to, one year after my last bleed, have a gathering with women who have been important in my life. We are going to eat special food, sit and dance around a fire, cheer each other on for the people we are, and celebrate my initiation into the wise woman year. I have been writing my list of females for about 2 years now.

  2. That sounds pretty cool Paula Youmell, kind of YaYa Sisterhood. I’m thinking maybe a trip to the beach with a few girlfriends. I am 60, and have been an old crone for a few years already.

  3. I am 54 and I am very close to my Cronehood. I too will celebrate with others and create a pathway to support other young women

  4. I I celebrated my Cronehood once,in my early sixties.A good celebration,with friends.Now,at 86,seeing the good pictures and comments on this site,I shall celebrate again. This time with the dark moon,dim lights, and with found stones and old embroidered fabrics,made long ago by myself,and my Mother,Aunt,and Grandmother. Then , next day, I shall go out into the sun again,and look forward to the next stage,- with interest!

  5. Anne Benson what a good idea you have! I am 66 and love being my age. “Recelebration” so to speak sounds wonderful to me. Thank you for sparking my enthusiasm to acknowledge, once again, these glorious phases of our lives. I love being a Crone!

  6. I.am 56. I stopped my bleeding at 43 but no one I know, will accept me as a crone for at least two more years. I’m not saying that I’m ready yet but it’s a strange place to be in for so long.

  7. I am 56, and never did a ritual or ceremony when my cycle stopped, but in the last weeks an acute desire to step into this new stage has taken over me, so browsing the internet looking for ideas, I got to this site and I love all that you are sharing!. I am preparing a ceremony to unblock myself, and fully embrace the Crone that insists on emobodying me!.. I will be with one friend and we will make it a beautiful ceremony full of symbolisms and mostly me, letting go!, I gather it is just following our intuition and making up our own ceremony.. each one with her own wisdom. thank you for this space!

  8. I also entered menopause at 43 after an ovary removal. That was 9 years ago. My closest friend of 32 years is now beginning perimenopause, and I would like to do a ceremony for her. While planning the ceremony I discovered that the process of ceremony is also feeling welcome to my own soul. I will give myself that gift. Doing this alone in a quiet place in nature sounds right. The season is now Fall which feels perfect as well.

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