Coming of Age – How to Start Welcoming Your Girl Into Womanhood

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Most of us were not welcomed into womanhood, and our INNER MAIDEN is left inside hanging, waiting, unsure…
As mothers, we vow to create a different experience for our daughters, only to find them rolling their eyes and running away as fast as they can! What is wrong with this picture?

The first stepping-stone to welcoming your daughter into womanhood is addressing YOUR Inner Maiden, who may have never been welcomed, or empowered, when you came of age!

The story of Menarche, our first period, is rarely told.
It is interesting to note that women, who tend to share everything with one another (from first sexual encounters to stories of survival and recovery), are silent about this one…

We have come a long way as women…
We became assertive. We broke through ‘glass ceilings.’ We combined careers with motherhood. We decided whether to become mothers or not. We can do it all… but do we enjoy the blueprint of our womanhood: our cycle???

The adolescent girl you once were, who may have never been welcomed into womanhood, is left inside you, dormant and waiting… You are mostly unaware of her presence, except you may have menstrual cramps, hate your periods, or see them as “nuisance,” “bother,” or “the curse.”

Like Sleeping Beauty, the coming-of-age girl inside you is waiting to be awakened.
But no Prince Charming is coming to wake you out of THIS sleep…
This is an internal job. YOURS!

So where do you begin?
As Einstein said: you can’t solve a problem from the same mindset that created it! Since the problem was created by rendering you invisible and ignoring your needs as a coming-of-age girl, the healing balm lies in being heard and witnessed…

Make time with one (or more) of your close women friends to tell the story of your first period. You will be astounded by the feelings of relief, comfort, and bonding that this simple act brings. Breaking this silence holds the key to your health and strength as a fully integrated woman. It also serves as the first stepping-stone to welcoming your daughter into womanhood…

I traveled a long way from seeing my period as a nuisance, to reclaiming it as my spiritual wellspring.
Sharing the story of my first period, and holding space for women around the world to share theirs, is the essential ingredient in waking the Sleeping Beauty inside each of us.

Share your first period story with a close woman friend in your living room, in cafes, on park benches, or anywhere women get together to support one other through conversation. This is one step you can take today to start reclaiming the fullness of your “Woman Being.” And it is a NECESSARY first step you would want to take in order to start  preparing for your daughter’s Coming-Of-Age!

© 2011 DeAnna L’am, All Rights Reserved

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